How to Please a Man Without Sex: Sexy Tips, Tricks and Techniques

Confidentially, when I typed in the title of this love advice article I had all of my women’s studies professors sitting on my shoulder and yelling at me. Yes, I set off my own feminist sensors. Please a man? Should a woman be concerned with pleasing her man?

Heck yeah. I hope that my dude is somewhere reading about new and exciting ways to please his woman. Or he could just ask; but then again he has the benefits of dating a sex columnist.

So you’ve decided to take a break from the fun of your girls night out single life and you’ve got a dude to call your own. Good for you. Just like a new puppy your guy will require care and feeding.

It’s time for us to expand our sexual menus beyond just intercourse. To keep monogamy hot we need to move beyond the routine. Love is give and take. Bring your lover breakfast in bed, volunteer to give a luxurious bath or ask him to bathe you. Of course we all know about oral pleasure but while you are thinking about satisfying your love, the importance of need and desire cannot be underestimated. Let your partner know that they are needed and desired him. That alone is a revolutionary act these days.

Massage

Sensual massage can be incredibly erotic. We all go for the obvious erogenous zones but neglected, untouched areas like his tummy, scalp, butt cheeks, inner thighs, behind his knees and arm pits (yes, arm pits!) are super sensitive. You can incorporate soft kisses or just let your fingers do the talking. Location and setting are key for this exciting massage. Take a walk on the bold side and tie him to your bed.

Reflexology

If you really want to get him excited go for his feet. Reflexology teaches us that you can give a man an orgasmic foot massage by focusing on the area between his heel and his ankle. Each foot represents half of the body. Start with a hot towel and thick lotion, then do a thumb-walk over the bottom of his foot, which corresponds to his pelvic area.

Private Dancer

Become his private dancer. It is incredibly hot to dance and perform for someone you enjoy. Give old school bump and grind burlesque mixed with new school dropping it like it’s hot. Seductively disrobe. Make him stand and dirty dance with you. Incorporate a grinding lap dance into your routine that brings you both all the way to satisfaction.

Aromatherapy

Science proves that men respond sexually to certain certain scents, as do you. While the smell of vanilla is hot for both of you, the subtle smells of lavender and pumpkin pie can make your man go wild. Then when you’re aroused, touching each other’s bodies through your clothes can be a huge turn on.

Fully Dressed

Remember those long makeout sessions when we were teens? Try kissing and suckling over the clothes for the same I-can’t-take-it effect. Touching someone erotically through their clothing is incredibly unexpected. Have a sexy movie of your choice playing in the background and do everything the actors do – but without taking your clothes off!

Ring-ring!

Don’t underestimate the pleasure of phone sex. Be incredibly descriptive. Describe the feelings and smells. Let your man hear… everything. If you feel nervous or shy, start with reading him an erotic story. You can do this if you’re together too. Mutual self pleasure can be beyond sensual.

There is nothing wrong with wanting to make your partner happy. Loving can a two-way street or a multi-lane highway. These tips and techniques work regardless of the gender of your lover. Enjoy!

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