Now that you have admitted that something is wrong, you need to figure out what the problem is. Do you fight a lot? If so, what are the fights about? Is it too much working, not enough sex, or just feeling unappreciated? Pinning down exactly what is wrong in the relationship will help you know what area needs to be improved on. Knowing what area in your relationship is causing the problems is one of the key things needed to improve your marriage.
Once you realize what is wrong in your marriage, you need to make sure you understand that it is okay for there to be a problem no matter what area it is in. The important thing is that you realize it. This opens the doorway to fix your marriage. Many people try to deny that there is a problem; they don’t want to admit that the fairytale isn’t real. This limits their ability to fix the marriage, because you can’t fix what you can’t see is broken.
It is important to remember that just because you and your partner may have different views on what is going wrong with your marriage, that neither of you are in the wrong. Of course, this doesn’t include major things such as infidelity, abuse, or addiction. You just need to remember that you have different opinions on what you think your marriage should be. No two people will agree on every aspect of their marriage. With compromise though, any marriage can be transformed into something that both partners are happy with.
Now these might seem like simple solutions to fixing your marriage, but you would be surprised about how many people simply overlook them. Being married can be tough enough, but having problems and not knowing how to fix your marriage can be hard enough.