Being in a relationship that works takes focus, dedication, trust and vigilance. Love is just a jumping off point. When I was in a ten year relationship there were times we couldn’t stand each other. That’s normal. It’s also normal to run into a dry patch here and there.
As adults know, being in a loving relationship on a day to day basis is not all cake and bubbles. Life can get in the way of your best romantic intentions. There’s the water bill to stress over and that fight with your boss to contend with. Date night might be the last thing on your mind. We forget that trusting that our partner will always be there for us is not the same thing as taking them for granted.
Like a good meal, a great relationship needs spice to make it pop. Here’s how to spice up your partnership.
How to Keep Your Love Life Steamy
1. Slow down.
The first few times that we’re intimate with our loved ones their body is a wonderland. We examine every spot, crevice and touch. After a while we fall into a routine. We’ve been there, done that.
Try switching things up. If you’re all about the evening steal more than a kiss in the morning. Your love will be surprised… and happy.
2. Bring back kissing.
The loss of kissing in a relationship usually signals the loss of intimacy. Catch your sweetie in the kitchen with soft kisses. Smooching is an incredible exploration tool that should always be a part of your love arsenal.
3. Turn on the lights.
I know, I know. Although I am a Love & Lifestyle Expert I am not always happy with my body either. Fabulous clothing in the daytime and darkness at night can hide a world of “sins.” Forget that.
You are perfect and wonderfully made. Turn on the lights in the bedroom and have a great time.
4. Skip the bedroom.
When it comes to breaking the routine, you need to step out of the bedroom. Bring playtime to every room in your house, then start all over again. Your love is your responsibility. Each partner should bring 100 percent to the relationship. Plan a weekend away to get the fires burning again.
5. Dirty talk.
Indulging in sweet nothings is always fun, especially when it’s unexpected. A hot text message of what’s to come later on that night can be steamy. Whisper in your partner’s ear. Describe your favorite sexy acts or parts of his or her body. Yes!
6. What about the toys?
Have you ever considered shopping for sexy toys with your mate? You can go into a woman-friendly shop like Babeland or Good Vibrations. You can also shop together online. The fun, excitement and giggles will extend from the shopping trip to the bedroom.
Why should we celebrate our birthdays once a year. Surprise your lover with a “Just Because You’re You Day.” Get a cake, balloons and some great food. Give an incredible massage as one of your first gifts.
There is nothing as important as showing your partner how much you appreciate their presence in your life. Indulging in love is the gift that keeps on giving. As I always say be good; and if you can’t be good, be safe.
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