As much as many people want to believe there is one love for every person, there are just as many people who can attest to the idea that it is possible to love more than one person at a time. When life hands you a set of circumstances in which you must choose one person over the other, it can be difficult…especially if the decision is life-altering.
Who can forget the characters in Nicolas Spark’s romantic favorite, “The Notebook” where Allie must choose between her fiancé and her returning first love? Both are great guys. They both love her. Both want to spend the rest of their lives with her. Allie loves them both. Her relationship with each man has had its ups and downs. They both bring out different sides of Allie…and she is so confused she doesn’t know what to do. Ultimately she chooses Noah, her first love, and they go on to live a rich and rewarding life together.
So how do you know who to choose when you are caught in the middle and feel the pressure to make a life-altering decision in which someone you love is going to get terribly hurt? It can be easier just to make no decision, stringing both people along for as long as you can. The problem is that this will only make your decision that much more painful in the end.
Here are some things it is important for you to consider in making your decision:
-What does your gut feeling tell you? Everyone has that gut feeling that can come from nowhere in which something just feels right. You don’t know why it feels right. As a matter of fact, it may go against what everyone else is telling you to do. It may not even make sense to you.
-Don’t base your decision entirely on emotions. Emotions are fragile, and that fragile state can at times override your common sense. You may put all reason and intelligent thought process aside due to what you are feeling.
-Forget about what everyone else wants and ask yourself what it is that you want. You may be so afraid of hurting the other people involved that you may base your decision on what someone else wants rather than what it is that you want.
-Is abuse or mistreatment a part of either relationship? If it is, then this is a serious consideration when deciding who you choose to be with.
-Who do you see a future with? Who makes you laugh? Who do you feel more comfortable with? Who can you talk to about anything? Who accepts you just as you are, and doesn’t try to change you? Who wants the best for you as a person?
These are only 5 things to consider when making your decision. Remember that your life is your own. Don’t let anyone rush your decision, but don’t delay your decision out of fear. When you finally do make a decision, your will be at peace.