Why does my friend cut herself

What should I do about my friend cutting herself?

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Coming from some one who cut as a teenager and went through many programs to stop, you cannot force her to seek help. She will get help when she sees it as a problem or when her parents see it as a problem and force her into it. Even then, …

What should i do, my friend cuts herself?

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Don`t tell anyone, that is her personal business, if she wanted anyone to know she would tell them. Why don`t you try helping her yourself, instead of suggesting other people? i`ve had plenty of friends who cut themselves, and i told the…

How do I help a friend stop cutting herself?

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The whole idea of the cutting is for the comfort. creating a wound & watching it heal brings the comfort and creates the idea of everything getting better. Once someones in the Habit there really isn’t much help emotionaly you can give …

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Why does my friend cut herself?

Q: I’ve been talking to this girl in my school for a while, and I’ve found that she more “jolly” than the average person. Don’t ask me how, but I’ve found out that she cuts herself. I want to ask her why she would do that, but I don’t want to seem overbearing or invasive. We’re not VERY close, but we can ask each other questions. What should I do?

A: Sometimes people cut themselves to get distracted from the mental pain they feel. My best friend cut herself and she was always happy on the outside but I know she hurt on the inside.

My friend cuts herself rather than crying i find this worrying. I don’t understand why does she do this?

Q: Please don’t give horrid answers. I also want her to realise it’s alright to cry and that self harming isn’t good and that it hurts people when she does it (like me). How can i tell her without offending her or making her angry at me? She doesn’t have any medical issues either.

A: Hello!Your friend needs help.You need to let her know that u will be there for her no matter what,that u love and care for her.Tell her that she can always talk to u when she needs help.It’s important that your friend, lover, child, sibling know that you can separate who they are from what they do, and that you love them independently of whether they self-injure. Be available as much as you can be. Set aside your personal feelings of fear or revulsion about the behavior and focus on what’s going on with the person.Some good ways of showing support include:Don’t avoid the subject of self-injury. Let it be known that you’re willing to talk, and then follow the other person’s lead. Tell the person that if you don’t bring the subject up, it’s because you’re respecting their space, not because of aversion. Make the initial approach. “I know that sometimes you hurt yourself and I’d like to understand it. People do it for so many reasons; if you could help me understand yours, I’d be grateful.” Don’t push it after that; if the person says they’d rather not talk about it, accept this gracefully and drop the subject, perhaps reminding them that you’re willing to listen if they ever do want to talk about it. Be available. You can’t be supportive of someone if you can’t be reached. Set reasonable limits. “I cannot handle talking to you while you are actually cutting yourself because I care about you greatly and it hurts too much to see you doing that” is a reasonable statement, for example. “I will stop loving you if you cut yourself” isn’t reasonable if your goal is to keep the relationship intact. Make it clear from your behavior that the person doesn’t need to self-injure in order to get displays of love and caring from you. Be free with loving, caring gestures, even if they aren’t returned always (or even often). Don’t withdraw your love from the person. The way to avoid reinforcing SIV is to be consistently caring, so that taking care of the person after they injure is nothing special or extraordinary. Provide distractions if necessary. Sometimes just being distracted (taken to a movie, on a walk, out for ice cream; talked to about things that have nothing to do with self-injury) can work wonders. If someone you care about is feeling depressed, you can sometimes help by bringing something pleasant and diverting into their lives. This doesn’t mean that you should ignore their feelings; you can acknowledge that they feel lousy and still do something nice and distracting. (This is NOT the same as trying to cajole them out of a mood or telling them to just get over it — it’s an attempt to break a negative cycle by injecting something positive. It could be as simple as bringing the person a flower. Don’t expect your efforts to be a permanent cure, though; this is a simple improve-the-moment technique.) If you live apart from the person you’re concerned about, offer physical safe space: “I’m worried about you; would you come sleep over at my house tonight?” Even if the offer is declined, just knowing it’s there can be comforting. Don’t ask “Is there anything I can do?” Find things that you can do and ask “Can I ?” People who feel really bad often can’t think of anything that might make them feel better; asking if you can take them to a movie or wash those (month-old) dishes (if done nonjudgmentally) can be really helpful. Spontaneous acts of kindness (“I saw this flower at the store and knew you’d love to have it”) work wonders. Check the links!Good luck xx

why is my 10 year old friend cut herself and she wears alot of black?

Q: please and thank you

A: That is what is called emo (emotional).If that’s the case, she probably is going through a lot right now. I knew a lot of kids that did the same, and they all were going through really rough times. You should try to talk to her. Just ask her nicely what’s going on or if everything is okay. The most important thing is, if she talks, listen. If people need somebody they can talk to, especially at that age, they don’t usually know how to ask for someone. She probably is having family trouble or something to that effect and just needs a person who cares and she can talk to.