I am so STRESSED!?
Please help, I have so many things wrong with me health wise and my major problem is I have just been diagnosed with PCOS! My husband and I have been having unprotected sex for 3 years and no baby! When I went to have a Laparascopy the surgeon told me that I was wasting his time as I was just overweight. I wanted to go home without the operation. My husband talked me into staying for the Laparoscopy and PCOS was the results. We want kids, we have just bought our own home and I feel like I am failing him misseribley by not being able to give him a child. He is so supportive and understanding but i still feel like a failure! We ahve thought about adoption but we really want our own. I am getting my cystics lasered off next year but there is a chance they will damage my ovaries in the process! I am putting on weight all the time, forever excercizing, eating well and all this happens to me! HELP ME PLEASE!
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You poor thing. My heart goes out to you. Please, don’t be disappointed in yourself. I’m sure that your husband wouldn’t want you to. I don’t want you to. PCOS is a difficult thing to overcome, but don’t be discouraged–it is able to overcome! My best friend has PCOS and she has two beautiful little girls. I have menstrual problems myself, and have done a lot of research and treated myself. Here’s what I’ve learned from experience:From what I’ve read, PCOS (and many other menstrual problems) is caused by excess estrogen in the body. The body undergoes what is called “estrogen dominance.” You stop ovulating and can have irregular periods, heavy bleeding, and painful menses. Your body creates a follicle on your ovary every month, but when you don’t fully ovulate that follicle becomes a cyst. There are many things that contribute to your estrogen dominance and subsequent PCOS. First, pesticides, hormones from meat, and chemicals in household and personal products are hormone disruptors. Many chemicals mimic estrogen, and even though they’re at low levels, the combination and culmination of everything around you adds synthetic estrogen mimickers to your body. Many times these chemicals enter the body and stay there. They clog up the hormone receptors in your body, not allowing it to accept it’s own hormones (the hormones that make you ovulate). There are a number of things you can do to limit your chemical exposure to estrogen hormone distruptors.1. Switch to a 100% certified organic diet (Expensive, I know, but desperate times call for desperate measures). When I made the switch, I lost 10 pounds without even trying. I also was able to kick a terrible sugar addiction. Many people with PCOS have a tendency to have this “sweet tooth” because of the hormone imbalance. Switch to organic, and in a few months you’ll have control over it. You’ll lose weight as well, and that will help with the excess estrogen problem, because fat cells produce estrogen. It’s a vicious cycle: fat creates estrogen > hormone balance creates cravings > intake of sweets creates fat > fat creates estrogen. Many women with PCOS develop insulin resistance, a pre-diabetic condition. Stay away from all white bread and processed grains. Stay away from sugar. I know you said that you’re eating healthy, so I’m probably preaching to the choir. But many people define “eating healthy” in many ways, so I’m just being specific in case.2. Go in your medicine cabinet and throw out everything. Deodorant, Shampoo, lotions. Everything. Every one of these things contain many hormone disruptors. “But they’re in such a small amount,” the manufacturers say. They may be in small amounts, but day after day after day of using many products with small amounts of these chemicals adds up to estrogen dominance. Some of the the chemicals you should watch out for are Propelyne Glycol, anything ending in “paraben” and phalates. Among many. Use a 100% natural shampoo–Aubrey Organics makes a good one. Deodorant is a big one. The best thing that I’ve found is a salt “rock.” They’re made out of mineral salts and work just as well as any anti-perspirant. They’re about $7 and will last for a really really long time. You can find them at your local health food store. The one i use is called Thai Crystal. 3. Take an herb called Milk Thistle. Milk Thistle supports the liver, and helps your liver get rid of all the polluting synthetic estrogen mimickers that have built up in your body over time. After cleansing your body for a couple months, begin using a natural progesterone cream. (Make sure the cream doesn’t contain any of the above mentioned chemicals) I started using cream and it worked wonders. I’m now menstruating regularly and I feel great. You can find it for under $20 at your local health food store. After a few months, you may not even need to take it, for you may begin to ovulate on your own. I hope this is helpful. Good luck–and trust me.I feel your pain! Adopt. There are enough unwanted uncared for children in this world. There really is no need to be selfish and insist on having your own children.
Dont give up while I am not sure what PCOS stands for it sounds like you have plenty of support and if I were you when I go to the doctor next I would talk to them about the weight gain you might have a hormonal problem. Good luck.
I sympathise with you. I know the yearning that you and your husband are experiencing I felt it myself for many years before we had success with treatment and had a beautiful baby. It does feel very stressful and I understand that you feel like your failing yourself and your husband – everyone else just seems to fall pregnant at the drop of a hat don’t they? No effort required hey? Well effort here is needed, and action!Diet and weight factors have bearing on fertility, and eating low GI foods is a way to bring pcos under control better. Have a little walk everyday and start to relax, stress really affects fertiltiy in a negative manner.Look into clomid fertility treatment – it can be prescribed and managed by your OB/Gyn and a fertiltiy clinic because they do alot of tests to see your progress on a almost daily schedule – blood tests to check hormones, leutenizing surges that show your about to ovulate etc and internal ultrasounds to check the growth rate of the follicles on your ovaries that contain the eggs ready to be released.Many people i know with pcos have fallen pregnant using this method, and have given birth to their little ones.I wish you every hope – don’t give up! Hugs : )
You should join a PCOS support group, ask your GP to find out about one for you.You’re not a failure because you can’t concieve – I can imagine that it must be a sad shock to you but it’s not the be all & end all of your life. Concentrate on loving each other to get through this tough time & you will be fne. Yes, gaining weight is a side effect but if your husband is any sort of a man he will understand & not mind.This is no small thing, it’s a big shake up to your life so don’t feel like you can’t go get help. Even some telephone counselling may help.Best of luck
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