What do you do when your wife is going through a miscarriage

What do you do when your wife is going through a miscarriage?

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The grief of a miscarriage can be overwhelming. Give your wife some space, but make sure she knows you are there if she needs you.

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When did your period return after you had a miscarriage? :o(?

Q: I had an early miscarriage at 5 weeks the early morning of August 12th. Everything came out naturally. I saw my OB/GYN physician and she suggested that we could begin to try and conceive again after I’ve gone through one cycle. I’ve heard your period will return anywhere from 4-6 weeks after a miscarriage. My question is, I was wondering when it came back for you after you had a miscarriage? Did anyone else have one at 5 weeks? I’m just trying to get a feeling for when I might be able to expect it. It’ll be 5 weeks next Tuesday. Has anyone had to wait over 6 weeks? Thank you in advance for your answers. This has been such a difficult time and my husband and I are really looking forward to seriously trying again. (We’ve kind of already begin ttc, but we’re just kind of taking things naturally and doing what husbands and wives do.) Thank you again!

A: So sorry to hear about your loss :*( I had a m/c at the end of June but I had a D&C done (doctors orders) I was about 9 weeks at the time. I bled lightly for a week after the procedure and then had a normal period the week after. Then the next three months I have had normal preiods but my cycle is like longer now – before the m/c I had 28 day cycles and now my cycle is 30-32 days. Our doctor suggested we wait until three normal cycles before TTC so this is finally the first month we can officially ttc again – its been a long painful summer but i guess time heals and when its the right time for you it will happen. Just don’t stress about it too much b/c then your cycles will be out of whack. I think I have been stressing too much and thats why my cycles are so much longer than they use to be. Good luck babe!

What is the best way to legally divorce your Pregnant Bipolar wife?

Q: Before we got married, my wife and I were the fairytale couple everyone wanted to be. We were perfect for each other. As time passed after our wedding, little lies started surfacing about my wife and her past and mental issues. She did not tell me of any medical problems she had in the past. I later found out by her that she married her rapist at the age of 18. She told me she only had one miscarriage, and later on told me she had two. After the first month of our marriage, I saw her getting more and more upset over the most smallest of disagreements. That turned into her packing her bags and frantically leaving me for some time and returning later. That behavior came to a head when she physically and mentally abuse me and was suicidal to the point where I had to quit my job just to help her get things together with her life. The doctor’s diagnosed her with having post traumatic stress due to her previous relationship where she was abused. She admitted to her Dr.s that she was now the abuser and didn’t know how to handle it on her own. She was then committed to a mental hospital for two weeks. During this time I had decided that I wanted a divorce. After the two weeks and the many promises of getting better I decided to stay. My love for her and trust in her was in abundance so in my eyes she could do no wrong. We are not perfect people and knowing and accepting this philosophy is perfect within itself. She got on Lithium and was doing fine for about 3 months. We probably only had two small disagreements during this time. It was perfect for us, we were on a roll. No problems, no manic phases, no drama, no picking up and leaving, it was all good. She had the patience to sit down with me and talk about all of our issues etc. Then we get pregnant un planned through us but gods plan, and we accepted this as a blessing and deep down really wanted for us to be a real family. The holy month of Ramadan comes along which means that people of the Muslim faith must fast from sun up to sun down. My wife who is off her bipolar medication, was currently on Tylenol with codeine, was also on Antibiotics every 6hrs, and was not eating that well as it was decided that she wanted to fast. She was on these medications because of having an inflamed tooth which was infected so for pain and risk of passing anything to our child has to take these things. I pleaded and begged her that this was not in the child’s best interest to fast right now. You have to get a root canal on your tooth, your on medications, your not eating that much as it is, you had two previous miscarriages and fasting for almost 14 with no food or water would be an extremely dangerous task to complete for both of you right now. My heart was furious because this is our child at risk and knowing what I’ve been through in the past with her and the bipolar, she will not listen to anyone no matter how sound, educated or important they are, she just will do what she wants to do. So I told her that I loved her and that because you were doing everything right up until this point, it would be a disaster for you to try to fast right now. I told her that I was proud of her accomplishments of how far she has come with dealing with bipolar without being medicated and pregnant. She is an extremely smart person and can do anything she puts her mind to. So at the end of the day after eating dinner, I approached her again to ask her not to fast. She smiled didn’t say anything, looked at me and proceeded to do what she had to do. I thought we were on the same page and that she understood my extreme concern for the safety of our baby. She then said “can you set the alarm for 5am?” I said oh your still fasting? She said yes. I expressed to her that if you are going to fast right now and potentially kill our child, I’m going to pack my bags and leave because of not being able to sit here and watch her fast and put our child health at risk. She says, who are you to tell me what to do. If you want to leave then leave. I don’t need to listen to you , you are not authorized to make these types of decisions for me. If her own husband is not authorized to make these decisions with her then who is? Mind you I was a nurse for almost 9yrs!!!! I automatically new that the bipolar was starting to show its ugly head again and proceeded to get some help from her doctors and psychiatrists, family members and friends. We argued and said some nasty things to each other. I told her that this was an emergency and that she needed to be locked up and a hospitalized facility so that she and the baby can be properly cared for so that it can get it’s daily nutrients. My wife or the bipolar disease I should say recognized this and twisted my every word into, “You want to lock me up in jail? Your own pregnant mother?” This went on for some days with her telling all her friends and family members that I wanted her locked up in jail which was clearly not the case at all. I’ve never been in jail, I’ve never

A: I heart feel your pain. Go seek her mental doctor’s help, they will suggest put her in hospital, there she can continues fast, but doctor can put nutrition in her body through needle. That should work out for both. This case she in in good care, and she can do fast. She is ill, please don’t mind her nasty word and accusing. You have done what you should. Try to help her correct her misunderstanding. If she love you, she will listen and understand. If she can’t, then you have make decision take it or leave it. If you love her strong enough, you will take it; but if she really make you unhappy, you don’t want to be unhappy for rest of your life.

Finally pregnant and my DH has left for his ex wife – and wants the baby! Oh God is he insane?

Q: My DH and I have tried to conceive for 7 months. We went through one miscarriage – and our relationship seemed to be stronger for what we have gone through. I finally got my BFP on Wednesday. My DH was out of town, and I couldn’t reach him as he seemed to vanish except one text msg. I started cramping on Friday and went to the MD – they said no fetal heartbeat but a sac and to wait and see. When I finally reached my DH – he said nothing except “I am confused over my ex wife.” I went to the MD today and everything is beautiful with the baby. My hCG levels are not increasing quite as quick as they should be so that is very concerning but the baby is there – 8 weeks 3 days and has a heart rate of 171. It was amazing to hear and I burst into tears because I was there alone. I told my doctor and she is horrified as she knows we have been trying. Anyway…Well I told him not to come home Sunday night – to go somewhere else and he did. I am with my family so I am not alone and today he tells me he is going back to his ex wife. When I told him we are having a baby and the baby is fine, he says he wants to know if I would allow he and his ex wife to have the baby live with them because she is sterile and they always wanted a baby. OMG – is he off his rocker? We aren’t children – he is 38 and I am 28. Not that it matters, but I am a clean cut, alcohol and drug free woman with a stable home, great job, etc and he leaves me when I am pregnant and thinks he is going to take MY BABY to play house with his ex wife?To say I became hysterical, sobbing and irrate is a gross understatement. I told him over my dead body will that happen and he said he “didn’t want to miss all the firsts and time with the baby” but I am supposed to because he is a selfish SOB? I told him that is the price you pay when you leave your pregnant wife – you don’t get to have it all. The crappy part is that I am crushed, devestated, irrate and heartbroken. I have this little miracle growing beneath my heart and I know that my DH is wrapped in the arms of his ex wife as we speak. He told me she said “She will love the baby as her own” so I shouldn’t worry about how she will feel towards the baby. I am devestated. I feel like my soul is being ripped out of my chest and my lungs cannot even breath my heart aches so much. What do I do? I want to hate him, but I am so madly in love with him that my heart is in a million little pieces. My OB/GYN told me she cannot imagine what I am going through, but said this stress is not good for the baby. How do I do this? I need advice…

A: Lose him. It sounds like you’d be better off without him. I can’t believe he’d ask you if he could have the baby for him and his ex wife to raise!! While he’s married to you!!Raise that baby yourself. You don’t need him.. Especially after what he’s putting you through. Don’t just walk away.. Run!!