Millions of single men and women all over the globe have turned to the internet in their quest for love.
Some of these individuals find that online dating is a great resource for finding and attracting a mate. Unfortunately they are in the minority.
The other online daters find that there are just as many games online as there is in the real world. And for some the internet makes it much easier to lie, misrepresent and prey off of unsuspecting men and woman who don’t know how to play “the game”.
As someone who is a huge advocate of online dating (I met my wife online over 12 years ago) I must confess that it is filled with its pitfalls and booby traps, but single men and women all over the world have turned to the internet in their search for love.
The key to finding and attracting a good mate begins with being able to write a magnetic profile. Unfortunately most online daters have no clue what they are doing.
Go ahead and read some online profiles. What do you notice?
They all sound the same!
Unless the picture you have posted reveals you are a runner up in the Miss Universe pageant the only guys you will be attracting are those men who are desperate for a woman (NOTE…there are tons of desperate men out there too!) or those men who are only interested in one thing…sex!
A guy doesn’t care that you’ve got a big heart, a sense of humor, a positive attitude and good friends and family.
C’mon, is anyone going to post a profile that says: “I’m stone cold, have a crappy attitude, have no friends, can’t stand my family and I’ve got the personality of a wet mop”?
It’s all a big dog and pony show.
But the good news is if you learn to play the game you can put yourself in position to win and have fun in the process.
One of the best ways to increase your chances of finding love online is to write a profile which will stand out from the others and grab the attention of the kind of guy you are looking for.
How do you do that? Well, here are 5 sure fire tips to take your profile from ordinary to EXTRA-ordinary.
1) Write a Great Headline – The headline is designed to immediately grab the attention of the type of person you are looking for. Writing a headline that says “Poodlelover666″ or “Sassychick911″ means nothing to a guy. But if you have a headline that asks a question and makes a guy silently say to himself “I AM” or “That’s me,” “That’s’ what I’m looking for,” you will immediately grab a guy’s attention and make him want to read more (as long as your picture isn’t a deterrent).
Here are some examples: “Are you looking for a strong woman who is drama-free?” “Do you still believe in chivalry?” “Wouldn’t it be great to share your life with a secure, smart and attractive woman?”
2) Write Your Profile to the Man You are Trying to Attract – Companies spend millions of dollars in advertising which is aimed at their target market. In advertising they call this an “avatar”. When writing your profile aim it at the guy you desire to attract. Write it to him as if you are painting a picture of who you are and what life will be like with you. That is what he really wants. He doesn’t care about what you do and what you like but if you can paint a picture in his mind of what being with you will be like and it matches what is going on in his mind then he will seek to respond to you first.
3) Include a Recent, Close Up Picture – Let’s be real. A picture says a thousand words. If you post a picture form 1988 or you post a picture with your girlfriends (who happen to be more attractive than you) then you might as well stop wasting your time. Looks are important and anyone who says they aren’t is lying. That being said a guy who is looking for a relationship simply needs to see that you are not a troll. And since looks are so subjective it would serve you best if you put a recent, close up shot (preferably of you smiling).
And for god’s sake do not post a picture where your boobs are hanging out and you’re trying to be seductive. You may think you are being sexy but the guys looking at it will think you are easy. Remember, it’s what the guy reading your profile thinks that matters most. If you give him any ammunition which shows you are anything other than an honest, smart and attractive woman you will wind up with a list of men who are looking to have “fun” contacting you.
4) Say What You Are Not Looking For – One of the best ways to simplify online dating is by stressing what you are not looking for in your profile. Don’t be afraid to piss someone off. An effective profile attracts the types of guys you are looking for and repels the types who aren’t a good match for you. The more clear you are in your profile the easier it will be for you. Now granted there will be some guys who don’t even read your profile and only contact you because of your looks, but a quick conversation with them (“What was it about my profile that made you decide to contact me?”) will quickly expose a guy’s real intentions.
5) Be Honest and Upfront – one of the biggest complaints I hear from both men and women is how much people misrepresent themselves online. Don’t say something that isn’t true just because you think that is what a guy wants to hear. There is nothing that will piss a guy off more than finding out that the woman he is after has misled him. Just because you played sports in high school 15 years ago does not mean you are “athletic”. If you are not currently doing it now or you can not look yourself in the mirror and say “I am this” with one hundred percent certainty it is better to leave it out.
Remember guys who are also looking for love are not expecting perfection.
And believe it or not many of these guys have the same hang ups and concerns about women and dating that you do about men.
The more honest and upfront you are the easier it will be for you to find that special guy you are looking for.
Online dating can be an excellent resource for meeting and attracting the type of person you are looking for. The more you understand the rules of the online dating game the easier the whole process will be.
If you write a profile which follows the above guidelines will notice that you start attracting more of the types of guys you are looking for while minimizing those who aren’t a good fit for you.
And that is the first step to winning the online dating game.