How do I say no?
This guy was giving me oral and he was REALLY BAD at it and I told him to stop (actually it was more like “can we just *do it*”)…is there any way that I can tell him to stop in a nice way without hurting his feelings. I know you’re sopposed to like tell him what you like but I didn’t really think I should have to give him a tour of my vagina because he was so clueless.
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Don’t specifically ask him to stop. Distract him by getting him to do something else. You could tell him it was his turn to get some oral, you could ask him to love up some other part of your body, you could ask him to take out the rubbish! I’m sure he would be happy to oblige with either of the first two suggestions.You don’t _have_ to do anything let alone give him a tour of your vagina.However, he won’t learn unless he is educated.This last fact will matter if this guy is going to be a recurring theme. You probably want him to learn.If he is not going to have a repeat performance, just get the hell out alive and sane! :)Oh yeah – NEVER FAKE ITIt teaches us guys the wrong things(1) we are studs (many of us ARE, but this is not the situation you are describing)(2) you like it when we do X (when in fact you don’t) so much so that you have a screaming and shuddering orgasm! GREAT! I’ll do it again! Uhm, if you don’t give him a tour of your vagina, whats the point? Every woman is different. You have to tell him what you like especially when he’s clueless. If you don’t want to bother, then you’re the one who’s no good in bed.