does anyone have any advice?
Well…i’m thirteen year old, I have a hero thats nineteen. I really trust her, and she’s like a sister too me (which she doesnt know). I want to ask her how old she was when she first got her period, but i dont know how to or if it’s a good idea. She is at college and the only why i talk to her during the year is on aim. I have already started mine (at eleven). But i want her to know that i only feel confortable with her, and open the comunication line. I can’t talk to my mom about anyting like this, or to many people because i cant really talk about things like this. Please help!THANK YOU!
More Answers to “does anyone have any advice?“
FIRST OF ALL, YOU HAVE MY SYMPATHY!I ‘KNOW’ WHAT YOU ARE GOING THROUGH!IT IS HARD TO BELIEVE THAT ‘NOWADAYS’ THIS IS STILL A PROBLEM BETWEEN MOTHERS AND DAUGHTERS!MINE DIDN’T TELL ME; HERS DIDN’T TELL HER; HERS DIDN’T TELL HER! 4 GENERATIONS OF ‘WOMEN’ NOT PASSING THIS VERY IMPORTNAT INFORMATION DOWN TO THEIR DAUGHTERS! WHAT A SHAME! AND SHAME ON THE MAMAS!I ONLY HAVE 1 DAUGHTER AND WHEN SHE WAS YOUNG; ‘SHE’ DID NOT WANT TO DISCUSS IT BUT WE DID ANYWAY! I DID NOT WANT HER GROWING UP NOT KNOWING!YOU HAVE ALREADY HAD THIS PROBLEM FOR 2 YEARS– WHY HAVEN’T YOU ALREADY CONFIDED IN YOUR FRIEND?ARE YOU SURE YOUR MOM DOESN’T ‘KNOW’? YOU WOULD BE AMAZED AT THE THINGS MOTHERS KNOW THAT YOU DON’T THINK THEY DO!ON THE OTHER HAND, MY ELDEST SISTER WAS ONLY ‘9’- SHE KEPT HER SECRET FOR MORE THAN 20 YEARS! SHE DIDN’T EVEN TELL ME!LIKE YOU, I HAD NO WHERE TO TURN!FORTUNATELY WE HAD A ‘SCHOOL NURSE’– I HAD TO TALK TO SOMEONE AND I DO NOT REGRET CONFIDING IN THAT NURSE!IF YOU CAN’T FIND YOUR ‘FRIEND’ OR THE WAY TO FIND OUT TO TELL HER; SEEK A COUSNELOR; A SCHOOL NURSE; A TEACHER AND TELL THEM THE DIFFICULTIES THAT YOU ARE HAVING!GIVE AN ‘ADULT’ A CHANCE!IF IT IS ANY COMFORT TO YOU, TO THIS DAY, MY MOTHER WON’T DISCUSS THE SUBJECT AT ALL!I AM ’55’ ; A MOTHER OF 5; A GRANDMA ; 6 GRANDDAUGHTERS AND 4 GRANDSONS AND ONE ON THE WAY!IF MY GRANDDAUGHTERS EVER ASK ME, I WILL BE MORE THAN HAPPY TO HELP THEM GET THROUGH A VERY DIFFICULT PART OF LIFE– ESPECIALLY SINCE YOU JUST CROSSED THE THRESHOLD OF ADOLESCENCE!DO NOT BE AFRAID TO ‘ASK’ SOMEONE!YOU DID IT HERE- TAKE THE NEXT STEP– ASK IN THE SAME WAY AT SCHOOL IF YOU CAN’T ASK STRAIGHT OUT!YOU WILL BE AMAZED AT THE ‘SUPPORT’ YOU WILL GET– ‘TRUE SUPPORT’!PLEASE GIVE ONE OF THESE OPTIONS A TRY!YOU HAVE ENOUGH TO GO THROUGH!PLEASE TRUST SOMEONE– EVEN IF IT ‘SEEMS’ LIKE A STRANGER ( LIKE THE SCHOOL NURSE) AND ASK THE SAME WAY YOU DID HERE!GOOD LUCK TO YOU AND MAY YOU HAVE A WONDERFUL LIFE!ARIES never heard of a phone..tell her you look up to her
Let me start out first by letting you know that I have a daughter who is your exact age, and she too, got her first period this year(a couple of months after she turned 11). And if I’m not mistaken, that is right about the time I started my period also. I don’t think your hero should have any problems with you asking her what age she got her first period. I do however think that since she is away at college, your best bet is to find a time where you and your mom are alone and ask her if you can talk to her about some “girl stuff”. I’m sure she’ll get the picture about what you mean, and then you might want to ask her what age she was when she started. I think its best to bring it up to your mom since she’s physically there to help you out with your concerns. I know its a weird subject to talk to your mom about, (it was weird for me too at first, but afterward I was glad I did). I hope this helps you out. Good luck!